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HeatingHelp Administrator Posts: 650
edited August 2018 in THE MAIN WALL


I was in my mid-30s when I first met Alfred. He was probably 20 years older than me. I never asked exactly how old he was. That would have seemed disrespectful because I was the teacher that day.

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  • dgn
    dgn Member Posts: 29
    Wonderful! Thanks for pointing out how none of us are perfect and that we all need to remember and make room in our lives for that.
  • KC_Jones
    KC_Jones Member Posts: 5,741
    My eyes are sweating.

    Both of my grandmothers had Alzheimers. I remember the first time I looked at them and they didn't know me. It took years for them to pass, but those are the days I actually lost them. Alfred was smarter than he knew, he knew to say goodbye, so many never get that opportunity.

    My mothers, mother was kept in the dark about her own condition. I never thought that was right, but it wasn't my decision to make.

    Dan, your writing is beautiful as always.
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  • Erin Holohan Haskell
    Erin Holohan Haskell Member, Moderator, Administrator Posts: 2,321
    This one is especially close to our hearts. My grandmother was a wonderful woman. Thanks for sharing this story, Dad.


  • ratio
    ratio Member Posts: 3,649
    Thanks for letting us in to your life, Dan. We all have people we love more than ourselves, but not everyone realizes this shared bit of humanity.

    And no, I'm not tearing up. I got something in my eyes, earlier.

  • W3DLB
    W3DLB Member Posts: 1
    Thanks for sharing Dan and Erin. A lot can be learned here.
  • Skepticelt
    Skepticelt Member Posts: 8
    A touching story.
  • DanHolohan
    DanHolohan Member, Moderator, Administrator Posts: 16,543
    Thanks. Just be there.
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  • Jackmartin
    Jackmartin Member Posts: 196
    edited August 2018
    My mother In law has vascular dementia it is a nasty state of affairs. I wish my wife could have had your relationship with her mother, strangely the dementia has made her less of a shrew. I totally agree with your rational to teaching people, the way you treat others is a direct reflection of who and what you are beneath all our social facades. Our two sons had two teachers in high school ,who changed their life; because of these teachers encouragement ,they have become an electrical engineer and a computer scientist, to their teachers I can only say ,thank you. All the best Jack
  • willasdad
    willasdad Member Posts: 23
    Lots of things to learn about on the Wall. Many reminders of things forgotten, or things made more clear. This is one to never forget. All too familiar with this scenario. Carpe Diem.
  • DanHolohan
    DanHolohan Member, Moderator, Administrator Posts: 16,543
    Retired and loving it.