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EBEBRATT-Ed
EBEBRATT-Ed Member Posts: 16,356
in THE MAIN WALL
My wife Sylvia passed away today from cancer after a 2 year and 9 month battle. She wanted to die at home and she did through the help of hospice. She fought it to the end and was up and around until last Saturday even though she was using a walker to get around and was on oxygen and an IV pump. I was told that if I took the amount of pain medication she was on it would kill me.

I will forever gratefull to my sister Dotty an RN without whom I could never have gotten through the past 4 days without her help. I would have given up and put her in the hospital. Also, Sylvia's sister Pauline who drove 200 miles round trip once a week to take her to her doctors appointments and stay and visit with her so I could keep working. The last 5 weeks she needed 24 hour care which I did the nights and weekends. I am so relieved that she is not suffering and feel guilty because I do feel relived. But I know that the sadness that she is gone I have not realized yet. I know my worse days are coming

I'm so proud of both sisters and my wife who never complained unless her pain was out of control. And thanks to all the Dr's and nurses.

There are a lot of wonderful people in this world! She was only 52.

I apologize for using this forum for this.

ED
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  • Timco
    Timco Member Posts: 3,040


    Certainly no need for apology...my sincerest heartfelt condolences to you. I am very sorry for your loss and wish you and all the family God Speed in your recovery. May God bless you all.

    Tim
    Just a guy running some pipes.
  • [Deleted User]
    [Deleted User] Posts: 0
    I'm very sorry Ed...

    Take solace in knowing that she's not suffering any more.

    Our thoughts and prayers are with you and your family in this time of need.

    ME
  • John@Reliable_14
    John@Reliable_14 Member Posts: 171
    \"I apologize for using this forum for this\" not needed Ed

    Our thoughts and prayers are with you and your family in this time of need John
  • Darin Cook_5
    Darin Cook_5 Member Posts: 298
    Ed

    I am very sorry for your loss. It is very sad and I shed tears for your wife as I type. I can understand your relief that her suffering , Thank God, is over. Do not feel guilty. Cancer is a terrible disease. I pray that a cure will be found soon. My prayers are with you. May God ease your sadness and give you solace.

    Sincerely,





    Darin

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  • jackchips_2
    jackchips_2 Member Posts: 1,337
    No guilt

    on your shoulders, Ed. We should all have your strength in our better halfs time of need.

    May she rest in peace, especially as she enters into the home of our Lord this Holy Season.

    Jack
  • Robert O'Brien
    Robert O'Brien Member Posts: 3,562
    I'm

    terribly sorry to hear of your loss.

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  • Paul Rohrs_4
    Paul Rohrs_4 Member Posts: 466
    I am sorry for your loss

    Our hearts and prayers go out to you.

    Regards,

    Paul Rohrs & Family
  • Dave Yates (GrandPAH)
    Dave Yates (GrandPAH) Member Posts: 281
    cancer

    touches us all. Your wife was truly blessed to have your love and support and her sisters'. May your heart be at peace knowing you were there for her.
  • Bob Bona_4
    Bob Bona_4 Member Posts: 2,083
    we are here

    for you Ed. So sorry to hear this.

    After 2 years of Hospice care, my Mom just recently has begun the journey to the inevitable. I can relate to you.

    Take it day by day, ok?
  • John Starcher_4
    John Starcher_4 Member Posts: 794
    I will.....

    ...keep you and your family in my prayers, Ed.

    I am so sorry for your loss, but you can take comfort in knowing your beloved wife is now pain-free, and in a much better place. I bet heaven has radiant heat!!

    Starch
  • Joannie_15
    Joannie_15 Member Posts: 115
    So Sorry

    Ed,

    Take care of yourself. You're in my thoughts and prayers.

    Joannie
  • Wild Rover
    Wild Rover Member Posts: 41
    You have our prayers

    ED,
    You and your family will be in our prayers during this most difficult time.

    Kevin E. and Family
  • Ross_7
    Ross_7 Member Posts: 577
    Sorry

    Sorry for your recent loss,Ed. Please accept my deepest sympathies & prayers to you, and your family. God bless.
    Ross
  • troy_8
    troy_8 Member Posts: 109
    Rejoice in her Life

    God bless, Ed. It seems obvious that she was very loved. That is a blessing we can all hope for. Remember her in life. Endure the sadness knowing you will meet again. Our prayers are with you.
  • DanHolohan
    DanHolohan Member, Moderator, Administrator Posts: 16,599
    Ed,

    I'm sorry for your loss. Thanks for letting your friends share this with you.
    Retired and loving it.
  • tim smith
    tim smith Member Posts: 2,807
    I too extend my deepest sympathy's

    I always am so sorry to hear of losses of loved ones of people I know and don't know here or elsewhere. I have felt the pain several times over the years and don't wish it upon anyone. I am of the mind, as said above, celebrate the life of the person whom you loved and this helps to ease the pain. Sincerely, Tim Smith
  • Bruce Stevens_2
    Bruce Stevens_2 Member Posts: 82
    Sorry to hear of your loss Ed

    I will keep you and the family in my prayers
  • Alan R. Mercurio_3
    Alan R. Mercurio_3 Member Posts: 1,624


    Ed, you and your family are in my prayers. so sorry for your loss.



    Your friend in the industry,
    Alan R. Mercurio

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  • Al Gregory_3
    Al Gregory_3 Member Posts: 20


    sorry for your loss, cancer is a horrible thing
  • Ruthe Jubinville_2
    Ruthe Jubinville_2 Member Posts: 674
    Prayers and thoughts for you

    and your family every day. My husband, Jerry was on Hospice when he passed 1 1/2 years ago. I also work as a hospice nurse. You have no need to feel guilty for your relief. She is out of her pain and struggle and in a much better place. And never hesitate to use this as a venue for release of your pain. It will get better but it will never go away and you would not want it to. Let me tell you that these people have been a stronghold for me whenever I have needed it. Peace be with you every day. Ruthe
  • Bill W@Honeywell
    Bill W@Honeywell Member Posts: 164
    Sorry for your loss

    She fought the good fight to the end, and now the suffering is over. Cancer has claimed many of my close relatives, and I know what you went through. She's in a better place now. God rest her soul.
  • hot_rod
    hot_rod Member Posts: 23,211
    So sorry, Ed

    and we are touched that you came here to share.

    hot rod
    Bob "hot rod" Rohr
    trainer for Caleffi NA
    Living the hydronic dream
  • joel_19
    joel_19 Member Posts: 931
    52

    I'm very sorry to here of her death i find myself fighting back tears as my mom died in her early 50's at this time of the year in 96. She to wanted to die at home and it was hard on everyone I know everybody was relieved when it finally happened.
  • EBEBRATT-Ed
    EBEBRATT-Ed Member Posts: 16,356


    Thank you all so much for yor support. It means more to me than I can express.

    ED
  • Jim Pompetti
    Jim Pompetti Member Posts: 552
    I feel your pain

    I have no words to express myself . Those who fight these battles with cancer have my prayers . When my wife was told of her cancer , I could see the her change to a warrior . She won her fight with God's help. We must join together , to defend this monster who steals our love ones. My prayer go out to you in your time of loss .

    God Bless
  • Rich L.
    Rich L. Member Posts: 414
    I'm so

    sorry to hear about your loss Ed. I know words can not begin to express your pain and sorrow. Please take solace knowing that time really does heal. You and your family are in our prayers.

    Rich Lorimer and family
  • J.C.A._3
    J.C.A._3 Member Posts: 2,980
    Ed,

    My sincere condolence. Chris
  • bill_97
    bill_97 Member Posts: 172
    My thoughts

    are with you and your family Ed . I am so sorry for your loss .
  • bill nye_3
    bill nye_3 Member Posts: 307
    52

    52 is just too young. My wife and I are both that age. I am very sorry to hear about this Ed. I hope you find comfort and strength in the coming days. God bless.

    Bill
  • hvacfreak
    hvacfreak Member Posts: 439
    just remember...

    remember that you had many more good times than bad ( even during bad times perhaps ). I wish you the best through this difficult time. -M
  • ed wallace
    ed wallace Member Posts: 1,613
    condolences

    my condolences to yoy its hard to lose a loed one to cancer she is in my prayers
  • [Deleted User]
    [Deleted User] Posts: 672
    no guilt for feeling relief

    she's relieved, and it's part of the process for the both of you

    let it all settle in
  • joe_94
    joe_94 Member Posts: 39
    God bless you all....

    It is both good and human and right to share this profound matter , and your admiration for your family, with friends here.
  • radioconnection_4
    radioconnection_4 Member Posts: 12
    my condolences...

    I cannot imagine the grief and loss you must be feeling. Please accept my sympathies.

    Peter
  • Bob Sweet
    Bob Sweet Member Posts: 540
    I'm so sorry for your loss

    much to young to have been taken from you. Peace be with you.

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  • Eugene Silberstein 3
    Eugene Silberstein 3 Member Posts: 1,380
    Our Deepest Sympathies

    Ed,

    From my home to yours, our deepest sympathies go out to your entire family.

    Eugene Silberstein and family
  • robert griggs
    robert griggs Member Posts: 65
    Sorry

    Sorry to hear about your loss.

    Your wife and you are in our prayers.
  • Larry (from OSHA)
    Larry (from OSHA) Member Posts: 727
    I am very sorry for your loss

    Ed,

    My deepest sympathy to you and your family.

    Larry
  • Jamie Pompetti_2
    Jamie Pompetti_2 Member Posts: 62


    Ed,

    I am sorry for your loss! My thoughts and prayers are with you.

    Jamie

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  • Paul Fredricks_3
    Paul Fredricks_3 Member Posts: 1,557


    So sorry to hear of your loss. Try to focus on the good, and always remember the times you had together.

    Please come back here anytime you feel the need. We'll be here.
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